It has been my experience that when entangling personal fields with others, if we do not establish boundaries of what we are willing to show up for, we experience what I call “the ricochet effect”.
The ricochet effect is defined as a reflection of our willingness to show up to help others, which results in negative circumstances for ourselves. The support we offer will ricochet back at us in myriad harmful ways.
I have asked myself what is the deciding factor as to whether giving others a hand up (not a hand-out) will result in a detrimental impact rippling into our personal perspective reality. In asking this question, an empowering observation has been made, witnessed, and ratified through trial and error.
Primarily, the difference in whether the ricochet effect occurs (or not) is the level of integrity of the person or pattern we are seeking to support. When a person or pattern is in integrity AND genuinely wants to help himself or herself, then your support will have a ripple effect that benefits everyone. Click To Tweet
Conversely, when others are out of integrity are looking for others to do the work for them, or using the scenario as a form of manipulation or to obtain power, then the circumstances ricochet detrimentally into our own lives and the lives of everyone connected. We become collateral damage.
After countless inquiries surrounding I love you AND . . . scenarios, this is a very useful distinction that enables us to maintain the sanctity of our boundaries without the ricochet effects of others’ incongruent choices.
This has been a very liberating delineation in awareness.